What have you not forgiven that is diminishing your life today?
It is said that to err is human, and to forgive is divine. The act of forgiveness is not easy, but it is the most spiritually empowering and liberating and healing thing you can do.
Forgiveness does not make what happened okay. It does not leave the offender off the hook. Forgiveness is simply a choice to let go of the negative feelings harbored against the offender or situation.
I discovered the power of forgiveness and how liberating it is when I was able to let go of a childhood trauma. The moment I chose to see it as simply something that happened, that wasn’t about who I am or who the offender was, and to have no anger about it, I was instantly healed of the wound that had emotionally crippled me for over forty years. I am no longer affected by what happened to me so many years past.
I have come to understand that Jesus had not chosen to forgive those that crucified him, there would have been no Resurrection. In my instant of forgiveness I was resurrected from a suppurating wound that had crucified me for over forty years.
Resentment ties up and consumes tremendous amounts of the body’s energy or life force. In her book Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can, Caroline Myss relates to our reserves of life force as a cellular bank account. Tremendous amounts of energy is consumed by holding onto hurts and traumas, which depletes our cellular bank account, inviting depression and illness. When we release the negativity, our cellular bank account can fill up again so we can begin to heal.
Cancer can be said to be an illness of hidden anger and resentment. We don’t like to admit we are angry, because nice people don’t get angry. In my case, I uncovered a river of unexpressed, unacknowledged rage beneath my niceness. In seeing what thoughts and feelings I was harboring deep inside, it was no wonder I was sick!
What is it costing you to hold onto the story and the resentment? What is it costing you to push the anger down? In terms of peace of mind, of health?
I invite you to take a deeper look, even though it’s uncomfortable, maybe downright painful, because it’s so well worth it. Later on I will share with you a simple clearing technique to help you get through to the other side and begin to experience the sweet release of forgiveness, and hopefully, your own resurrection.
First, take a deep breath please,
and call in your Source of Light and Love.
Now consider the resentments you hold.
See that as long as you seek to hold the offender in bondage by your resentment, you imprison yourself. Are you secretly feeling superior because you hold the expectation that this person is evil and continues to do this evil? Is your resentment so toxic you cannot wish salvation for your offender? And how much is that costing you? Can you consider the possibility that forgiveness creates space for the wrongdoer to heal as well, sparing future victims? Are you willing to release this person now and invite them to rise to a higher level and thus unravel the story that you hold so dear, and thus free yourself?
And have you considered that perhaps you invited this to happen to you as a way to grow and evolve or fulfill some higher purpose? Can you let go of the guilt and shame and judgment that keeps you stuck in the same story? In releasing shame and blame, you are healed and free to move on.
Perhaps the most important person to forgive is yourself. In my experience I find it very healing- and humbling- to let go of judgments of my own mistakes and own my human imperfection. This frees me to be able to let go of my defense of justification and blaming and take responsibility for my own part with compassion for myself and the other party. What are you not forgiving yourself about that, if you would forgive yourself, would release you from the never ending cycle of shame and blame?
In forgiving myself and others I have healed body, mind, and spirit. As I keep forgiving, I have more and more peace in my life, and more freedom. And it gets easier to let go of negative patterns! I know I would not be alive today if I had not made that choice to forgive and to keep forgiving.
Clearing of resentment*
With every past hurt or whenever you are triggered by someone else’s behavior say:
“How much and in how many ways have I done this same thing to others? Everywhere I have done that throughout eternity will I destroy and uncreate it all?”
Release it now, give it up to Source.
This is very healing not only for yourself but for anyone you have hurt at any time, and releases you from the victim pattern.
You can also do this to release wrongs you have done in the past, which helps release you from the pattern of repeating the same behavior.
In her bestseller You Can Heal Your Life, Louise Hay tells how she healed herself of cancer with natural treatments and her inner mental healing. Along with cleansing her body and cleaning up her diet, she cleaned up inwardly, releasing old hurts and forgiving childhood abuse, and learned to love herself. She was clear that if she did not do the inner work, she would not have gotten over the cancer.
In her book she states the probable mental issues underlying cancer are deep hurt, longstanding resentment, deep secret or grief eating away at self, carrying hatreds, and a sense of hopelessness- of 'what’s the use'. Do any of these resonate?
Here is her affirmation to heal cancer:
I lovingly release and forgive all the past.
I choose to fill my world with joy.
I love and approve of myself.
Let go of everything that doesn’t allow you to do all that.
Love and blessings,
*Clearing thanks to Access Consciousness®
Cancer survivor and holistic health practitioner empowering people facing cancer in their healing.
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